Dealing with criticism

Would you love to simply ignore unfounded criticism and useless advice?

Do you want to be less defensive and more open when you receive helpful feedback?

Are you wondering how to accept a gift, even when it comes wrapped in an attack?

Do you want to give feedback that does good and hurts less?

Would you like to have more control over the critic inside your own head?

If someone is criticizing you or giving you advice: Sometimes, this is welcome and helpful - you take to heart what the person has to say, and you grow as a result. At other times, your critic or advice-giver may mean well but they are not helping - you don't need or want their input, you didn't ask for it, but here it is, and now what? And sometimes you're too hurt, or too busy defending yourself, to see whether there might be a gift hidden behind the attack.

If you are on the giving end: Providing negative feedback - even when it's true - can feel awful. You probably don't want to hurt anyone's feelings - at least not if you can help it. So, you try to soften the blow, or you rush just to get this over with quickly, and you stop short of saying what the other person really needs to hear. Or maybe the way you give clear and direct feedback hurts your relationships, and you don't know why that happens or how to change that.

And then there's that pesky voice inside your head: This one may be your loudest and meanest critic yet. And your most "effective" one, because it knows where to hit and really hurt you. And it's always with you and won't shut up. Maybe you don't need anyone else's feedback, because you've already said far worse things to yourself ...

Now the good news: It doesn't have to be this way.

You can learn to

receive criticism more gracefully and confidently,

be less defensive - and safer - when you are verbally attacked,

redirect unsolicited and unwanted advice,

give feedback that is honest and kind, instead of brutal or watered-down, and

let your inner critic be a wise support, without letting it run your life.

What you'll get:

6+ hours of pre-recorded videos, bite-sized and organized by topic, to watch at your convenience. Go at your own pace, and revisit material and exercises whenever you'd like. The videos are not recordings of live events; they are created separately as stand-alone learning materials.

Summary of key takeaways from each video - for quick reference and easy review.

Practice suggestions to help you build skill, so you can apply what you learned when you need it.

Criticism can be a gift ...

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When someone else criticizes you:
Accept the gift, not the attack.

When you criticize someone else:
Give a gift, without an attack.

When you criticize yourself:
Be a gift to yourself, not an attacker.

Enjoy this brief excerpt from the workshop videos ...

When I was in seventh grade, my PE teacher gave me some negative "feedback". According to her assessment, I had no abilities when it came to sports. I was twelve, and already pegged as a bookworm, so I believed her. For more than 30 years, I told myself that I am not athletic.

Now I hold a Black Belt in Kenpo Karate, I am a certified Yoga teacher, and I participate in ballroom dance competitions ...

What participants have said about this workshop (names omitted to maintain participants' privacy):

G., meditation teacher

Thank you for this.

I am motivated to go back to all the exercises and make this an embodied practice.

B., embodiment coach

I love your framework. It gives me a roadmap: okay, I'm here, these are my options, this is what I could do. Simply seeing that already created a big shift.

F., writer

I now have a much gentler way to redirect myself when I fall into a self-critical storm.

Inside the course: