Talk about controversial topics in a way that brings people together:
listen with an open mind, speak with respect, and find your common humanity.
Full disclosure: It's challenging to talk about things that matter when emotions run high and opinions clash. There is no quick and easy fix for polarization, divisiveness, and ignorance. And no matter how eloquent and convincing you are, Uncle Oscar may still vote for that other candidate ...
But: You can stay calm, even when someone pushes your buttons. You can make wiser decisions on when to speak up or stay quiet. You can enjoy spending time with your family, friends, and coworkers - even when you don't like their political or religious views. You can disagree respectfully and keep the channels of communication open. At the very least, you can be civil.
Keep your cool, keep it respectful, keep your relationships.
Wouldn't the world be a much better place if more people did that?
Let's do our part, together.
This video workshop is for you if you want to
What you'll get:
What participants have said about previous workshops (names omitted to maintain privacy):
Five stars! All of the content was understandable and related and very relevant. I feel like I got a lot out of it.
Your training was gentle, but super empowering. It made me feel like I can handle this, and the things you suggest are doable.
I was reminded how many avenues there are without being an aggressive bully, a scorned cynic, or a passive pushover.
Part 1 - Managing stress and emotions
1: Start with your body - manufacturing a more useful foundation
What do you do in your body under stress?
2: Calm, relaxed, open, and kind
Replace stress (fight, flight, freeze, collapse) with Centering, Smiling Heart, and Shining.
3: Stable, balanced, alert, and powerful
Establish support, strength, and confidence in your body through Power Sitting.
4: Practice, application, and being "ready"
Give yourself credit for what you did well. Keep going.
Emotions don't just happen to you - you DO them.
6: Manufacturing more useful feelings
Replace unhelpful emotions with different, incompatible, more useful ones.
Part 2 - Shifting your mindset
7: "More useful" - for what?
Understanding, changing someone's mind, agreeing to disagree ... are these useful goals?
8: Make it safe, motivating, and easy to hang out with you
Focus on keeping the channels of communication open and on cultivating a positive relationship.
9: Check your attitude
10: Shift your attitude
11: Manufacturing curiosity
What can you be genuinely interested in?
12: Ripple effects - the power of relationships
Be part of the "pool" of people who can potentially influence each other.
Part 3 - Stepping up
13: The foundation
Calm alertness, compassionate power, genuine curiosity, positive relationships, and safety.
14: What is holding you back?
"Getting over" your fears: Is it enough to be motivated and calm?
15: When a conversation is not going well
Getting out of the way: evading and redirecting.
16: Permission to leave
You don't necessarily have to stay in a conversation and endure, stop, or fix every "bad" thing that is happening.
17: Planning ahead
Be prepared for emergencies.
18: Taking a break
Create "emergency exits" so you can leave the room temporarily if needed.
19: Changing the subject
Open a "safety valve" to release tension.
20: Ending a conversation
Leave, but leave the bridge standing.
Hello! I'm Lisa Fisher, and I don't like conflict.
As a former corporate attorney and mediator, I have been helping people have tough conversations at work and at home for over 30 years. I teach my clients how to stay calm and focused under stress, defuse tense situations, speak up with confidence, and disagree respectfully.
I lead Embodied Peacemaking workshops based on the mindbody education system developed by Paul Linden. I am a certified embodiment coach and Yoga teacher (Yin, Vinyasa, Embodied Toolkit), martial artist (Black Belt in Kenpo Karate), Embodied Meditation teacher, practicing Buddhist, and ballroom dancer.
Let's create a more peaceful world together.
Mind-body training for more peaceful relationships.
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